Odunlade Adekola and I
Odunlade Adekola. I will not deny it. But we are no longer dating each
other. We are just friends now. In fact, we will remain just friends for
the rest of our lives. We are still close. People tend to get the wrong
ideas when they notice that a particular guy casts a particular lady in
his movies constantly. Odun is a very sentimental person. He believes
that I am a good actress. He is well known. Right now, he is number one
in the Yoruba movie industry. He believes that somebody
can benefit from
his stardom and succeed as well. I think that was what he did for me.
God will not come down to help you. He would send you help through
people. God used him to lift me up in the industry.
Odun was married with two adorable sons and he was not ready to take a
second wife. So there was no point in continuing the relationship. I
would have married him if he had asked me. I know my father would not
have been pleased with that if he was still alive. But marriage is about
understanding and happiness. If I find a man that understands and
respects me, loves and cares for me, what else do I need? Despite the
fact that we are no longer lovers, we still communicate to each other.
It was rumoured I fought with Flakky Ididowu over Odun. It is not true.
Such a thing didn’t happen. I have seen Flakky just once this year. I
don’t go to parties. How could I have fought with Flakky during a party?
People think I am proud and I hardly talk to my colleagues. But that is
not the case. I am only reserved. I always keep to myself in order to
avoid gossip. I was hurt when my relationship with Odunlade broke up,
but life goes on. The truth is that we didn’t even break up like that.
We just came to a mutual understanding. A friend of mine actually said I
was the one who didn’t want to marry Odun. I asked her why she said so.
She said a lady should know how to hook a man. But I am not that kind
of person. I knew he was married before we started dating. But some
people are destined to get married to two wives, even if the first wife
agrees or not. I shouldn’t be desperate to hook a man. I don’t have any
regret dating him. I also know he is happy dating me.
man for me at a more convenient time. I am happy with Him. He doesn’t
make my head ache with pain. I don’t believe that dating Odun would
affect any future relationship with another man. Any man that wants to
date me should know that I have a past. I am not so ugly for anybody to
think that I would have been without a boyfriend all my life. I have
moved on with my life and I know I would still get another guy. If the
guy I meet is married again, I would know I was destined to be a second
wife. I don’t know why people are sentimental about actors dating
actresses. Bankers date each other. It wasn’t as if I dated a
physically-challenged person. Even if he were, I still liked him a lot.
Most of my colleagues are getting married. I am happy for them. But I
also pray the marriages work out. I feel pained when a colleague’s
marriage breaks up. It makes me remember what my father said about this
profession before he passed on.
I learnt they said I was stranded in London. But that is a fat lie. I
was never stranded in London. Even before the story broke, I was
already in Nigeria.
Note: Taiwo Aromokun spoke to Punch’s Nonye Ben Nwankwo