Toyin Lawani justifies why she does not believe marriage is needed to be happy

Toyin Lawani
Yesterday, we brought the news that Toyin Lawani expressed that you don’t need marriage to be happy, read here. She has somewhat defended her statement. According to her men just need kids cause it’s important and they think women belong in the kitchen. Here is what she wrote;

“If I didn’t say😜this it will be a case of I said that,please remember that we all have our notion about life and the situations we have been through,have overtime, influenced our thought process.Marriage is just a platform which humans need to use in defining and consoling each other,but at the end of the day,men just need kids👍🏻cause it’s important&we are the oven.most men think we belong in the kitchen.They hate when women are in control. I write this from an informed position” been there, done that”. I have been with someone who’s richer than me&also been with someone who I’m richer than,which has been a worthwhile experience to have a balanced viewpoint.As a woman,when you are at the receiving end in marriage,men just want to control you.I long for a situation where love strives&my drive for success is encouraged without my man being intimidated.most women make their men feel bad but I don’t,I’m humble&respect my man,age regardless.cse they are our kings,But men will always be men&women need to align with that fact&not try to change that.even pastor Sef dey cheat,just pray to God to send u your Bestfriend,who will respect you enough not to bring shame into your home.At the end of the day everyone deserves to be happy,but not to stay in a bad marriage at the expense of their Happiness.Men cheat&all that money lavished on wedding becomes a waste,you go through divorce&your kids will be subjected to mental punishment.No woman on earth can Replace a father,I will rather spend my lifetime with my Bestfriend knowing we have each other till the end.People need to stop getting hassled into marriage&in the process,settle for the available (wrong man). let the will of God prevail in your life journey. If u hv a partner for ten years and eventually get married then that implies you have settled for a true friend whose friendship will permeate your union. married women in this part of the world sacrifice the most&still subjected to abuse&disrespect from their spouses .Where is the principle of equity&fairness.it’s a 50/50 thing,”sacrifice for me&I will sacrifice for you”.I love my career bt my kids come first,Be best friends then marriage will come.

At Gods time🙏🏻”

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Read shocking reason why this woman married two husbands

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A a middle aged woman identified as Modinat Mufutau, has being married to two husbands in Ibadan. She has stated her reason for having two. 

She has gotten the leave of a Customary Court to divorce one of the husbands.
According to the News Agency of Nigeria, the woman, on Tuesday told an Idi-Ogungun Customary Court, Agodi in Ibadan how she alternated two husbands in order to satisfy herself and get enough money to take care of her three children.

Modinat had begged the court to dissolve her 12 years relationship to one of her husbands, Ajadi Mufutau, for alleged lack of care and maltreatment.

She told the court that she met Mufutau in 2005, and he impregnated her without marriage formalities.

The petitioner said that at the beginning of the relationship Mufutau pretended to be a nice and responsible man.

“But when he impregnated me, he began maltreating and beating me whenever I demanded money for antenatal care.

“I left his house after delivery and hooked up with another man, Saheed, who impregnated me two years later but turned me into a punching bag after delivery of my second child for him.

“Later, I settled down with Mufutau, got pregnant for him again, but Saheed, who I have the second child for begged me to continue with him.

“I decided to date two of them without any problem until they met each other in my rented apartment and fought.

“My Lord, I have made up my mind to divorce Mufutau because he had stopped giving me money for the maintenance of the two kids I had for him since he fought his rival, Saheed, in my apartment,” Modinat said.

Mufutau did not contest the petition for dissolution.

He said, “Modinat is a shameless woman. I was not aware that she still dates Saheed until I met him in the apartment I rented for her and she did not see anything bad in her action.

“I just pray the court to allow the first child be in my custody so that I can properly take care of the child and I promise to support her for the care of my second child,” Mufutau said.

President of the court, Chief Mukaila Balogun, and the court’s assessors, Aare Samotu and Ganiyu Alao, agreed and dissolved the union.

The court awarded the custody of their first child to the respondent and the second child to the petitioner.

Balogun ordered Mufutau to pay N3,500 as monthly allowance for the upkeep of the second child and warned both parties against fomenting trouble.

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