Hello everyone, I’m in need of an advice, I got married to a man 5yrs+ ago. He relocated some months after marriage to Canada, I went to meet him 2 years after. And we had a baby 10months after my arrival. Immediately I arrived his place, I noticed he flirt alot onlline, Sex chats, Video sex chats, Visit porn sites, visit Prostitue Sites, and the rest. I caught him red-handed twice and he begged and pleaded not to do such again. I forgive him and I believe maybe because of the distance we had in two years.
We move on and I promise myself not to even go near his Laptop or mobile phone anymore.
I adhered to that for more than a year, which I’m still doing that till December 23 of 2021.
My daughter threw his I-watch inside water. Then I picked it up to drain for some minutes, after I drianed, I realised a message popped up , which Read ” Do you enjoy me yesterday Do I book you for tomorrow again”
I was forced to check what’s this. I saw hell. In short, he visited two different Prostitues in a hotel to book 30 minutes session with them for $160 and $220, I also saw other messages asking for Anal sex from these Escorts. I realised, he visited them 3rd, 1st 22nd of December. During these period, I was the one begging him for sex. He said he’s not interested that he’s Fixed with many activities and Shifts at work.
I was in the house hopping my husband as gone to work, not knowing he’s doing something else within his short break and free time.
Immediately I saw this, I was devastated,I was mad at my self. We are very religious. Why all these for God sake, this is the 3rd time, what have I done to myself, have made a wrong choice?
I called his brother back in Nigeria and I inform and sent all what I saw to him, he called and talked to him, the next day, my husband came to me, apologize and promised not to do that again. I accept and forgive him.
Few days ago, I have been having this kind of feeling, I feel like I’m not beutiful because why will my husband prefer a Prostitue than me.
I hate myself, I think about it every minutes, whenever I see him, my mind keep breathing fast. I’m sad and I’m not happy, I don’t know what to do.
I can’t discuss with my parents, because they see my husband as the most religious person.
He doesn’t talk much, keep friends nor drink.
I need advice dear mummy and daddy please is this a red light?