I am 28 years old, a graduate of one of the university in South West. I work as a contract staff in a bank.
I met this guy about a year ago through my best female friend, and the journey started. I took him to my parents and he also took me to his parents too, and the wedding preparation started.
We were suppose to do family introduction but my parents says there is no need considering some logistic reasons. Although my mum has her reservation concerning him. But since my father has no objection I think am good to go.
He has sent money for some preparation since he is not residing in Lagos. The problem started after I went to idumota with my aunt to buy our engagement clothes. It was my aunt that drove me to the market. When we returned, my fiance called me, we talked for some times, but he couldn’t appreciate my aunt for her kind gesture. Although my aunt didn’t say anything that day but she wasn’t happy. My dad also complained that he has been rude to him. The same goes with my mum.
The last straw that broke the Carmels back was when he was arguing with my aunt over the phone. He did not know I was in my aunt’s house that particular day. I wasn’t happy at all, thinking that if he would not regard my parents how would he treat me after marriage.
So I confronted him the second day over the phone, telling him that I’m not happy about the way my parents where complaining about him, and that attitude of him is creating fear in me. Instead for him to be a little remoseful and even call those people and apologize, he was arguing with me, still in my aunt’s house.
So I told him, maybe we should put the preparation on hold thinking he would at least try and apologize to them. He just said, is that what you want and ended the call.
Everyone was surprised. He didn’t call back it was his mum that called my mum, she didn’t even persuade them to stop me from taking such step, and the guy too didn’t call me for like too weeks until when I called him and he said he wasn’t interested in the marriage again.
Actually, I wasn’t happy and I have been downcasted since then, but on the other hand, May l ask this question does this guy really loves me?. Is he really mature enough for marriage. Is it all my fault? Please don’t insult or abuse me. I just want to know if it’s all my fault.